This entire thread puts me out on devs. I stuns me that there are this many people who either excuse or cheer on being hateful. Wanting to use a project becaues the author was this rude....what?
Just a complete lack of emotional intelligence. You do not treat people like this.
Bro lol is this like your first day on the job? The faux "brutal honesty" as a personality trait is what smelly antisocial computer nerds have always been known for. Just ignore them.
I've read some of your other comments in this thread and I completely agree.
It's dismaying how many devs seem unable to distinguish poor project leadership/communication from being a bold truth-teller "telling it like it is".
This is a major project lead demonstrating that if things don't go well between him and you, he's going to retcon your whole relationship, collect gossip about your company and management style, chastise you for your life choices (taking venture capital?), talk shit about your code and your project, question your moral choices, and then publish all of it.
This insistence on "being right" is really caustic. It's just ugly.