> Fully ruggedized is in fact what I want and what I consider truly consumer grade.

I put fully ruggedized connectors on several shipping products. You would not like the cost nor space requirements.

> I've dropped several-kilogram objects onto VGA connectors, SCSI connectors, and DC barrel jacks and nothing ever happened.

VGA and SCSI connectors are rarely exposed like a phone connector and they're in a completely different class anyway. Nobody wants a phone with a giant SCSI size connector on the bottom.

I hate to say it, but the fact that you have this many anecdotes of dropping "several-kilogram objects" on to connectors is a clue that you're an outlier in how hard you treat connectors, if breaking 50 USB connectors a year wasn't already an indicator.

Expecting consumer connectors to stand up to this outlier level of abuse is unrealistic.