alt Hacker NewsI would only agree partially. There are counterexamples that are not illustrative, but it is fairly common that in thinking about how to construct a counterexample you gain a more thorough understanding of the original problem and at least one fundamental issue which prevents the conjecture from being true.
Right; see Lakatos. In its roughest form, you study the structure of whatever counterexamples you find, add those as (negated) preconditions to your proposition, rinse and repeat until you have a true statement. If the proposition remains useful, you now have a new definition.