This is a terribly unempathetic response to someone opening up about a very taboo (but probably very common), painful emotion they've experienced.

If you think I'm the one ruining my life, having to change diapers and do most everything for someone who can't talk, has limited motor skills so he has to be pushed around half the time rather than walk anywhere, who needs constant attention, and will probably need constant attention for the rest of his life, your "wokeness" has lead you to be incredibly cruel.