>Before she transitioned, as a man she said she'd get lots of compliments and kudos from customers for basically just doing her job at Subway. As a woman, though, people were much more likely to complain and she was rarely complimented, and only if she went "above and beyond" her normal work duties.

Highly relevant: Norah Vincent's <https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-Made_Man_(book)>

Vincent later committed suicide. She found from writing the above book that being a man was so difficult that it caused a breakdown. <https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/18/obituaries/norah-vincent-...>