A lot of this is just inflicted by parent culture and anxiety. Unless your kid applying to an elite school, most college/university accept between 60-80% of their applicants. If they have decent GPA.
We are making the kids endure that out of fear of their college, but stats don't back up the grind they make the kids do.
Parent of a middle and a high schooler and we try very hard to not pressure the kids, but a lot of it is coming from their peers and the school.