No, I am not saying that in a negative way. I have kids and I love them deeply.

I am saying that the people who have kids now are aware of how much effort it involves, so they consider it "part of hobbies" (as in, interesting things), not as part of "chores".

Modern society requires that, otherwise people just have no kids.

And yes absolutely, the government overlooks entirely all the work that goes into parenting now. The standards have raised enormously.