Depends on your pcie connection. If they're both x16 then it's pretty low overhead, x8 is ok, but x4 is too slow. Also it's a bit tricky getting an optimal setups with mismatched vram, I think you could probably still make use of the full vram if you're clever but it's trickier.
for layer parallelism (e.g. to get more vram) the bandwidth between layers is essentially nothing (like 16kb per token I think), so I don't think x4 would even be a problem!