I'm not an AOSP engineer, but that was my thought reading GOS's comments: Why be negative toward the people who you want help from? They don't need more stress in their day and wouldn't want to engage, with the promise of enjoying more of the same treatment. If it's consolation, much of their communication seems the same - it has nothing to do with AOSP or Google. :)

Communication is a challenging skill and not all good engineers are good at it. It's stressful to be in a role that demands lots communication if you feel you aren't good at it (I'm not speaking for GOS leaders - I don't know what they think).

Going out on a limb, hoping it helps - the most powerful single solution IME is compassion: Compassion toward yourself and toward others. They are engineers like you, trying to get through a stressful day like you, and they could use some pleasant interaction from someone who understands what it's like. You could use some of that too. Running GOS isn't easy, I'm sure.