Tyranny of Optionality

I had to stop reading once I hit the first GPT-ism: "This isn’t career ambition. This is the specific torture of having high potential."

https://www.pangram.com/history/c2498a8c-e93d-4077-9e29-a683...

In Four Thousand Weeks, Oliver Burkeman writes a passage that fits the same vibe as this piece:

>You can’t become an ultrasuccessful lawyer or artist or politician without first “settling” on law, or art, or politics, and therefore deciding to forgo the potential rewards of other careers. If you flit between them all, you’ll succeed in none of them. Likewise, there’s no possibility of a romantic relationship being truly fulfilling unless you’re willing, at least for a while, to settle for that specific relationship, with all its imperfections—which means spurning the seductive lure of an infinite number of superior imaginary alternatives.

I give this tendency a name, "Optionality cost" (https://herbertlui.net/optionality-cost/):

> When you keep your options open, you’re living a sub-optimal life, betting that you’ll come across the assuredly best option that you’ll eventually commit to.

If you've ever gotten into the groove of this mental habit, this post is a nice reminder to be more mindful when you fall into the trance of imagining a better option, and instead commit to whatever it is you're doing in the present moment.

Imagination is unique to humans (more than reason) and it is a blessing as much as a burden. The unfocused mind is filled with noise, and most of that noise is alternate timelines, paths not taken, what the OP calls "optionality". Meditation is the only thing that helps - relentlessly be in the present moment, on your cushion, taking a breath. The present is the only time in which you're getting actually new information - memory is rehashing old input, and imagination is anticipating new input.

I have a house I like, a car I like, a career I like. Nothing in this post resonates with me.

Take control of your life and be satisfied with what you have. Put away your phone and pick up a book. Listen to a record. Watch a movie.

Yes, people around me want to rise, but I ain't stressin'.

Pretty sure this is just slop, but generously engaging in good faith:

Big "bedtime is slavery" vibes off this one. Just because you've had every option afforded to you by your mega IQ and elite status doesn't make you a martyr because you get anxious about going on LinkedIn. There are kids who live their whole lives in absolute misery until they get blown up by a US/Israeli bomb. Whether or not you get to work at a startup or not is not tyranny.

This whole culture is so cringe. There's great dignity in being comfortable with your work. Find something that you feel is a noble toil, and just do it to the vest of your ability. I know janitors and chefs who I respect infinitely more than some SF dork whining because they can't decide which startup to work for.

I've been seriously considering getting a tattoo saying "commit to the bit". I find that's both one of my strengths and something I value a lot. It's a kind of anodyne to this problem - do your analysis, make the best choice you can, and then commit fully instead of relitigating, until the next time arises when you need to think carefully again. You'll know when it's time.

> The cruel irony is that the very trait that makes you valuable - awareness of what’s possible - makes you incapable of enjoying what you have.

Brought to you by the HR department's retention section.

What a ludacris setup.. randomly interrupting people to ask them what they're doing and how they're feeling.. as if that's really going to give you a an unbiased and accurate signal for the very topic the author is writing about

Good message, but did you really need to use AI to write it? It could have been about half the length.

What in the blue fuck is going on with that awful, awful fade-in blur effect on the text? That's one of the worst things I think I've ever seen.

I think we need to discuss adding Pangram integration to HN, similar to what Substack is doing. This is 100% AI slop, don't waste your time.