My dad told me that the difference between men and animals is honor. And being honorable is something each of us can choose to be, or not to be.
Blaming society for one's own actions is dishonorable. You get to choose, and you are responsible for your choice.
Yet here you are, blaming your dad for your personal shortcomings in worldview.
leaving a bad or unequal society in place is similarly dishonourable. That is still a choice you make