> desperation and despair

Desperation is from government, because many people just checked out. There are many nicer activities, such as hiking.

> unbiased and impartial judge and coach.

Gov has super strong biases, just the way they punish (or not punish at all) different groups, for the same crime.

> forced to marry anyone.

In every practical way you will be forced to marry. Common law marriage, alimony...