There are three main categories of AI ethical dilemmas for me:

1. IP infringement

2. Climate impact

3. Cultural impact

I think that 2 & 3 apply to all AI right now - artistic, coding, writing, whatever. However, I don't think that #1 applies to everything. Code has been openly shared for as long as it's been possible to do so. There have probably been cases where AI trained on closed-source code, but I hardly believe that was ever necessary at any point to get where we are.

My point in saying this is that your critique of AI is valid but I think a little less so here.