> I wish I had this sort of temperament

I think this is part of the problem. You think it’s a temperament, but it’s actually a skill, and skills can be developed.

Like all skills, developing it will be often difficult, frustrating, and uncomfortable, so when it’s like that you have to recognise that as part of the process. You’ll think you’re going against your nature when, in reality, you’re simply experiencing the tribulations of learning a new skill.

Source: 50 year old man who used to throw many stones at dogs on a much more regular basis.