This isn’t coherent. Republicans seem extremely interested in controlling every facet of Americans’ lives. They appear frankly obsessed with controlling who you might love, how you might identify, what books you are allowed to read, whether women have autonomy over their own bodies, etc. The list goes on.
What legislation are you living under that you can't "love who you want to love?" I live in a conservative county and can't hardly drive a mile without seeing a rainbow flag. I don't think any of them are in fear that the police are going to come knocking on their door talking to them about who they should love. Form a coherent point before trying to call out incoherence.