> It always struck me as backward to try and shame men into "being better".

Well, other methods haven't worked, such as trying to help or have these discussions. Or relying on science.

> Safety for women is a facet of healthy men.

Unfortunately, men generally don't care about this reasoning.

> ...we should find ways to improve men's mental health.

Unfortunately, men are the ones generally opposed to this. It's a "sign of weakness."

Let's be clear, men work hard to prevent men from improving men's mental health.