> Also feels like something that could be life ruining if someone innocent finds themselves on the list by mistake/fluke.
Not as likely as you think. The reason a list like this feels necessary to many (presumably mostly) women is that in SV culture there's a presumption that these sorts of claims are almost always baseless. That these women engaged in consensual activities and either regretted it after the fact or were trying to make a buck.
Women get bitten by the vagueness of their own rules, since they want to keep all options open.
If it was a strict 'no workplace dating ever' it would have been easier for everyone.